Things that we lost in between

Today as I was driving back home from office. As I saw traffic increasing on the main highway I took a service road that passes through a nearby residential area just to avoid traffic congestion. I saw a person standing by the road and as I drove past him he asked for a lift. I hesitated and moved forward but thinking that I should have stopped for him because it was a service road and there is a long walk to the nearest public transport facility from there. A few minutes later I was feeling this "guilt" of not stopping for him I saw another person asking for lift. This time even having an urge to stop for that guy something came to my mind and I silently moved on but ashamed of myself.

It's been a few hours since that happened and I'm still thinking about those precious things that we have lost in our lives. I still remember when I was a child I came to my uncle's house in F7. He was going to Super Market (F/6 Markaz) and took me with him. When we reached the main double-road he asked for lift, a car stopped and dropped us at F/6. It was first time I saw this so I asked my uncle what kind of a taxi it was as he didn't ask for any money. He smiled and said "he was my friend so he dropped me here". I was not convinced because I knew that was not the case and we just found that car by chance on the road. Later on I realized that he was like "sab musalman aik dosray k bhae hotay hain (all Muslims are brothers)" kind of friend.

I felt sorry for our nation today. In the past one and half decade of security phobia we have lost many innocent lives but more than that we have lost trust. We are afraid of our own people. We cannot trust even if we want to. We are too scared to offer someone help in certain conditions as we think that might cause us trouble. If we are eyewitness to an incident that involves police involvement we never ever agree to testify it in court as we know we can get killed for that.

Who is responsible for this incredible loss? What made us so mean?

I'm dead sure if I start a survey on this question the result would be as per my previous post "People only see what they want to see". Those who hate Gen Musharraf will blame him for all the happenings. Those who hate Taliban will blame them for everything and those who have a love-and-hate relationship with USA will put all the responsibility on US govt keeping aside the fact that they once applied for US work visa which got rejected. Not to forget the anti-India-cum- pro-pak-army lobby that thinks behind every shortcoming that we have, India and Raw are involved.

And last but not the least the pro-religion fellows who have the same answer to every question "ye deen say doori ka nateeja ha (this is all because of not following religion)". Ok I can agree to that if after saying that you don't start imposing your own flavor of religion on others.

I have thought a lot about it but couldn't finalize my answer to myself. I'm not satisfied with any justification that I came up with. Can someone help me find the answer?